2014… A New Hope?
Well that may be a little melodramatic (not to mention geeky 🙂 ) or not as 2013 wasn’t the best year for me personally. The kids ran rings around me (one started that teenage phase, the other was failing English, and the smallest spawn was sent to the principal’s office several times among other things), business slowed down, I lost and gained the same amount of weight so that on January 1 this year I weigh the same as I did on January 1 last year, my husband had a major depression recurrence, and the list goes on.
However a blog post linked to me by a friend called 2013 a “Learning Year”, and one of the tips Hubby’s psychologist keeps drumming into us came to light – managing expectations. Basically when your expectations are higher than what’s reasonably going to happen, you open the door to frustration, anger, resentment, and all those negative emotions that you’re supposed to avoid.
It’s a hard concept for me as I don’t expect anyone to do anything that I’m not willing and able to do myself, and in my experience, when you adjust your expectations to a lower, more “reasonable” level, you receive even less than you paid or planned for.
Maybe that’s something I need to add to my long list of things to work on this year 🙂
So, if I’m trying to look on the positive side of things, what have I accomplished and learned this year?
I’ve learned that:
- I live in a lucky and prosperous country, and have everything I need.
- I really do have an awesome family and kids.
- I can handle everything that crosses my path.
- I am important to the people who love me.
- I am good enough for me.
Things I have accomplished:
- Guided my eldest through her first year of high school successfully.
- Worked with the middle child so she passed English.
- Assisted the youngest on the path to acceptable school behaviour.
- Supported my husband to a much better place mentally.
- Made good financial decisions and paid off some debt.
- Took big, public steps towards becoming a published author this year.
- Collected, good, solid, supportive writing friends who really rock my world.
I’ve also learned that I have limits (who knew?), that saying “no” sometimes is okay, and that doing something just for me is important. So I’m going to add them to my list of things to work on this year too 🙂
2013 has been what I’d like to think of as my character development arc. I think I’m ready for my action sequence now!
I wish you all a happy, safe, and positive 2014, and hope that it exceeds your expectations!